10 Thing Women Should Avoid

1.When will I meet you once again? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call out. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.

2.Why didn't you call? There's only one response to this question: Because he didn't wish to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be fixed around questioning why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not disturbing about ONE guy.

3.Where were you? If he required you to recognise where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really demanding is, "Where you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is viewing, sweetheart. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.

4.I love you. You're telling it in the hopes that he'll state it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be wasted and belike feel dim. Saying "I love you" is not going to rush things up if he's not inclined to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.

5.Did you sleep with her? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who worries? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these views. In this case, ignorance very is blissfulness.

6.Are you seeing anyone else? Mystery Story is to men what love affair is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over find of the relationship and you've shot down the mystery. Who made out 5 words could be so powerful?

7.Where is this lasting? Nowhere fast if that's your mental attitude. Guys want someone fun and prosperous to be with, not someone that's constantly distressing about the future day. His natural actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.

8.We ask to talk. This is the equal of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the denial. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are unwound. Don't try to talk to him when he's fatigued, worried or trying to watch tv!

9.What are you considering? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you frantic at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.

10.I don't trust you. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think brilliant and act dumb-it'll be easier to get the prove you need to sustain your suspicions. -quickarticletips

Top Tips For Women To Meet Men On A Free Dating Site

Because there are usually more men than women on a free dating site, there are a few tips women should follow to be sure their posting is noticed by the right man. With so many men out searching for that special someone, a woman can find herself inundated with contacts. While that may seem flattering and exciting at first, it can mean that special guy who might be “the one” can get overlooked. The trick is to fine tune your posting to attract only the type of man you want.

The Picture

Of course your first thought is to take the sexiest, prettiest picture you can find and post it on the free dating site. If all you are interested in is a clandestine meeting or quickies in a strange hotel room then go right ahead. If you are looking for a more permanent relationship or for a man who can be a friend as well as a lover, forgo the sex kitten shot. Have your picture professionally taken from the shoulders on up and post this to the free dating site. If there is a part of your face you do not like take a full body shot so it is not so obvious or, put that part of your face in the shadows. Try several different tops out in different colors and styles. You will usually find one particular color or style is more flattering than others. Yes it is ok to show off a little cleavage but do not go overboard. Be sure to smile and look upbeat and happy. Do not wear heavy dark make up; instead apply your makeup as you would for work or an afternoon out shopping with the girls. Believe it or not, most men find heavy make up a turn off and prefer the “natural” look.

The Headline

Try to be original with your headline when you write for your free dating site. The “single white/black female” schtick is boring and very unoriginal. Try to insert a bit of your personality into your headline. Be as upbeat as possible and try to insert a little comedy. You want the man who reads your headline to smile at the very least. Avoid phrases like “recently divorced”, “newly single”, “back on the market” or anything that indicates you have recently had a relationship end. This signifies unwanted “baggage” and will scare most men off. Try and convey a sense of playfulness, excitement, and a joy for living. Stay away from any negative words in the headline.

The Profile

Begin your profile with a cheerful hello. Do not mention and past relationships or the fact that you are newly single. The first part of your profile should be your favorite things you like to do with a man. Keep in mind that a man will probably not like to spend his day shopping at Victoria’s Secret or getting a pedicure. If you honestly like to watch football on a Sunday afternoon, then mention that. If you enjoy scuba diving or water skiing, include this in the first few lines. Try and imagine what you truly like to do that a man might enjoy too. Keep the sex out of the picture or you will open yourself to all sorts of crazies. Talk a little bit about your life, your job, education etc… Try not to reveal too much personal information. Only talk about those pieces of information you would tell a stranger at a first meeting when posting to the free dating site. -Ingrid Margaret

Allow the Law of Attraction to Bring in Your Desires

Often, for some reason or the other, the step of the Deliberate Attraction formula that talks about "allowing" is the one where most people seem to trip over. This formula simply lists in 3 simple steps how we can leverage the Law of Attraction:

1) Be crystal clear about what you really DO want.
2) Remove doubts and fears so that your desires match your vibrations. Thus raise that internal vibration of yours.
3) Allow the real desires of your heart to come to you.

About the first 2 steps, a lot has been written. But the part about "allowing" desires is a bit elusive.

Let me share a personal experience about this kind of "allowing". My eight inch waste-paper basket seemed to be overflowing every second day. So after an eternity of mental complaints, one day I asked myself, "What kind of basket do I want?"

I imagined a sleek and smart looking 15 inch high black colored basket that could hold a week's trash and would look great with my other office accessories. Next I started collecting data on all types of wastepaper baskets available. I discovered a variety of baskets in a range of prices, all of which seemed to have some flaw or the other.

So after weeks of this researching, I said to myself, "Let it go, the right one will eventually show up". Well, believe it or not, but it did.

I was making a purchase at the Hudson Bay Store, when I thought of cashing in on some reward points of mine. So, when I reached the fifth floor reception, right there across the isle I saw my ideal black wastepaper basket. It had all I wanted in terms of features, finishing and material used and to top it all it was within my gift certificate range. However one look at the basket and the clerk at the counter told me that it was on sale and cost just $5.00. In utter disbelief I paid cash and saved my gift certificate.

My elation at that moment can only be imagined. Not only did I save money, also, the manner in which the exact desire of my heart had come true was miraculous.

The age old adage that says: "Let go, let God" is what the "allowing" is all about. Thus the Law of Attraction brings you your desires once you start allowing it. Allowing should never be mistaken to mean second best. Rather it means letting or allowing Law of Attraction so that it may bring you your exact desire and in the best possible way.

You just need to believe that the Law of Attraction will bring your desire to you at the right time and place. -pradeep kumar

Use “The Secret” in your life in 3 effective steps

After watching the movie "The Secret", the first question that pops up in everybody's mind is, "How do I apply the Secret in my life?" The question is not so easy to answer. Understandably so, because though the movie is quite good and significant in the fact that it introduces us to the law of attraction, it falls short in conveying to the audience as to how to successfully apply it in one's own life.

Following are three ways to help use the secret in your life.

Step 1:

The first and foremost thing that can help you in using the secret in your life is ensuring that you have knowledge on the subject. Try to gain as much information as possible on the topic of law of attraction. Try to get into the nuances of how the law of attraction works and how it may influence your life.

The most important aspect of the secret is the thoughts that cross your mind. These thoughts are much more than the debate between positive and negative thoughts. Just understanding the true nature of the thoughts is the most important step towards understanding the law of attraction.

Step 2:

The other important and effective thing that you can do in order to master the secret law of attraction is to write a journal about your thoughts. There is a certain pattern to your thoughts that will begin to emerge soon and will give you an idea as to what your real wants and desires are.

With a journal, exploring your feelings and emotions at a much deeper level will become possible. Your feelings when laid out plain on paper make your mind less cluttered and clears your thinking.

Step 3:

Finally, the most definitive step to use the secret law of attraction is to make efforts to make your goals a concrete reality by converting them into actions. With the help of this journal, try to track all those actions of yours that are in keeping with your goals. Usually it is hard for people to account for the time they spend and the things they spend it on. Tracking your actions based on the entries in the journal, you can easily estimate the time you spend on things and keep a track of the way your time has actually passed.

Usually we perform the same actions again and again, thus getting the same boring results day after day and try after try. After that, people begin to complain that the law of attraction doesn't work for them. When you do some action again and again, then you get the same results that many times, and that is the way the law of attraction seems to work for these unfortunate people. -pradeep kumar

The Healty Side Coffee

Have you been trying to kick the coffee habit? Well, before you say good-bye to your favorite morning drink forever, you may be interested in hearing coffee may not be so bad for you after all. In fact, it's been linked to a variety of health benefits. Did you know that one study shows even one cup of coffee each day can cut your risk for Parkinson's disease in half?

Coffee's full of healthful components like magnesium, potassium and vitamin B3. And coffee is the American's number one source of antioxidants, says one 2005 study from the University of Scranton. Another study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition showed that one cup of coffee can have more antioxidants than a serving of blueberries or oranges. Antioxidants play a key role in reducing the inflammation which is associated with many health problems ranging from heart disease to rheumatoid arthritis.

Dr. Joe Vinson, a chemistry professor who led the Scranton study, says, "Antioxidants are your army to protect you from the toxic free radicals, which come from breathing oxygen and eating sugar, that start chronic diseases. Antioxidants help stave off cancer, heart disease, diabetes and stroke."

It may be the high level of antioxidants that helps coffee protect the heart. Researchers from Norway looked at data involving more than 27,000 women in the Iowa Women's Health Study and found women who drank 1-3 cups of coffee each day had a 24 percent reduction in risk of heart disease compared with women who didn't drink coffee at all. Women who drank as much as five cups a day showed up to a 19 percent decrease in risk of death from all causes. However, the study also concluded that more is not always better. Drinking more than six cups of coffee per day did not seem to increase benefits significantly.

Analysis of a collection of studies from the Journal of the American Medical Association showed evidence that consuming coffee can lower the risk of developing type II diabetes. Studies which looked at decaffeinated coffee showed similar results. The benefits increased with the amount of coffee drank: up 28 percent for those who drank at least four cups per day, and up 35 percent for people who drank more than six.

However, just because coffee is good for you doesn't mean you should overload your body with caffeine. Rob van Dam is a Harvard scientist and the lead author of a study which showed the amount of caffeine in just two cups of coffee can constrict blood flow to the heart.

"I wouldn't advise people to increase their consumption of coffee in order to lower their risk of disease," says Dr. Van Dam, "but the evidence is that for most people without specific conditions, coffee is not detrimental to health. If people enjoy drinking it, it's comforting to know that they don't have to be afraid of negative health effects."

Fortunately, most of these benefits can still be enjoyed if you drink decaffeinated coffee, so you don't have to take in surplus caffeine just for the antioxidants' sake. It's also a good idea to look for coffee made from organic sources to limit your exposure to chemical pesticides. At any rate, rest assured you can enjoy your morning cup of joe without regret - so long as you go easy on the sugar. -NaturalNews

If Vaginal Discharge Changes Color is it Dangerous - Depends on the Color

Listen ladies who have a vaginal discharge your concerned about is, no matter what you "read" involving the condition you "think" you may have, is that words don`t cure. It`s real people like your doctor who heals and answers the questions you have. Written words are silent and don`t talk back, so it is up to your GP to clarify your vaginal problem "verbally." The information below is a guide and hopefully will enlighten you on different aspects about abnormal and normal vaginal discharge. Have you for the first time noticed a vaginal discharge and want to know is this normal or, you are already familiar but your discharge has changed in color, consistency or texture.

It`s not unusual for a girl to panic and believe something isn`t right after seeing discharge for the first time, but to put your mind at rest, it is normal, vaginal discharge is just one of the body`s "natural functions" so stop panicking. Nevertheless if it is not functioning right then that's not natural. Vaginal problems usually come about due to infections of which there are several which affect the vagina.

Bacterial vaginosis is a vaginal infection known more for the fishy smelling discharge and out of most infections is very common indeed. Discharge is the outcome of bodily secretions which grow from the small glands in the lining of the vagina/cervix. Discharge is normally expected to show round the time of puberty. It will not necessarily appear the same as the next woman`s because each woman varies, for instance, in shape, height, eye color and breast size etc. The amount of discharge you lose is often influenced by hormonal changes.

How can a woman tell if her vaginal discharge is normal or not normal? Well a usual physiological discharge is normally clear, smooth and faded yellow but should you experience symptoms like "to much," it "changing color" to brownish red even green or "smelly," then these are signs to say something may not be right. And what should women do when something's not right, that`s right, seek medical attention. You would be silly not to. Any condition left untreated can make a bigger issue out of something that started out small. If your problem has occurred after a sexual encounter it could be a sexually transmitted disease, and unlike bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections vaginal pimples or other, - STDs can cause serious complications for the patient health wise.

A normal discharge would not normally express odor and neither give discomfort i.e. irritation or itching. These are indicators to say that everything is fine, (no smell - no discomfort) however if they should happen then you might be infected with a condition that needs determining.

Abnormal discharge can include:

" Nasty Smell

" Thick clotting

" Green color

" Blood specks

" Itchiness

" Sores and ulcers

" Lower stomach pain

" Painful intercourse

Possible causes for abnormality

" Bacterial vaginosis

" Thrush infection

" Dirty tampons

" Poor hygiene

" Gonorrhea (STD)

" Trichomoniasis

Candida albicans is the name tagged to yeast infections. Hormones in vaginal fluids and the harmless bacteria that settle in and around the vagina helps prevent thrush from happening. Normally vaginal issues rise when this natural balance is upset, and the Candida masses. Particular reasons that can give cause for the upset:

" Pregnancy

" Taking antibiotics

" If you suffer from diabetes

" Wearing tight underwear

" Vulva or vagina soreness

" Sickness

" Steroids because they can lower the body's resistance to infection

Candida yeasts are already in the vagina, and they cause thrush when the body's natural balance is disturbed. Many vaginal issues do cause an uncomfortable and embarrassing itch as it does with thrush, however thrush is not an infection known for a problem discharge. Douching is not a solution for clearing up the thrush infection, in fact it is not a healthy act either as it can remove the vagina`s essential harmless bacteria.

If the concern is an STD Gonorrhoea, then it`s understandable why the symptoms have had you worried and had you come forward to check it out. Gonorrhoea infection is caused by the Gonococcus bacterium. Regardless of whatever the type STD it needs to be treated. Gonorrhoea can spread upwards to the fallopian tubes, and cause infertility if left without medical attention.

The woman infected with Gonorrhoea can expect changes in her vaginal discharge and see it turn to green-yellow along with an unpleasant odor. Remember, if an STD goes untreated it can cause serious problems. Depending on the type of disease and how far gone it is, it can cause death.

Trichomoniasis is caused by a tiny amoeba-like (protozoan) organism called Trichomoniasis vaginalis. The vaginal discharge caused by Trichomoniasis is normally a foamy yellowy-green. It is also loose scant and smells and vulva soreness is likely. If you suffer from differences of which you are normally accustomed to then have yourself checked out. If you have pain when urinating check this out also.

If discharge shows thick white and itchy, then it could be you have the thrush infection. You can treat this yourself with anti-thrush cream or tablets, however if the problem persists after treatment of this nature call and see your GP.

You have also the option of calling into a Gum clinic for an examination. GUM clinics carry out on-the-spot tests. Your personal information that you provide while being accessed is kept private - so no one need know of your dilemma, but in saying that it is best if you have someone to go along with you for support. To keep the vagina healthy and in shape needs nothing more than soap and water along with initiating common sense when it involves sexual intercourse. Use condoms to avoid GUM clinics etc by practicing safe sex.

A woman`s usual moist discharge rids dead cells and bacteria from the vagina which comes mainly from glands in the cervix, and is slightly acidic, which is the power behind infection prevention. The acidity results from lactic acid, formed by 'friendly' bacteria as they break down sugars. So from this you can see the reason why we need vaginal discharge and should look more to ways in keeping the discharge healthy as well as the actual vagina. -Kacy Carr

How To Talk To Men

Have you ever gone out for dinner or coffee with a man you were really interested in, only to find that keeping the conversation going was a struggle?

Have you ever wanted to REALLY connect with a man on an emotional level, only to find that he wasn't interested at all in talking about his feelings?

What these scenarios have in common is a basic misunderstanding of how and why men communicate. While you're trying to talk to a man in the same way you'd like to be talked to, he may be wishing that you could just stop talking for a minute so that he could gather his thoughts or just enjoy being in the moment.

It's a complaint as old as time: men think that women talk too much, while women think that men talk too little.

So how can you talk to a man in a way that will establish a connection and make him happy? In this article, I'm going to give you three tips to improve your communication with men.

1. Allow him space to think.

While we're used to jumping in with our thoughts and continuing passionately until we're interrupted, not all men feel as if they can think with an impassioned woman talking at them. Say what you have to say, then stop and allow him time to work things through in his head.

Don't get upset if you have to sit in silence for a minute or two while he figures out what he wants to say. He's not giving you the silent treatment. He's just processing what you said so that he can give you the best response possible.

Similarly, if your man is the quiet type, avoid interrupting him. He wants to feel that you're listening to him, and this requires you to sit patiently for however long it takes him to get out what he wants to say. Active listening will encourage your man to share his thoughts more often, because he knows that you'll listen to what he has to say.

2. Be direct.

One of men's major complaints about women's communication style is that "they don't just come out and said what they mean."

For example, most women will drop hints about what they want for a Christmas present and get upset when their partner doesn't pick up the clues. Men don't enjoy little games like this. If you keep a man guessing, he's more likely to get frustrated than figure it out.

So master the art of being direct. If a man asks you where you want to go on a date, only tell him that you don't care if you actually DON'T care. If there's a particular restaurant that you've been dropping hints about, tell him point-blank that you'd like to go. It won't diminish the pleasure of the experience, I promise!

3. Draw a man out with activities, not with confrontations.

There's no better way to ensure that a man will clam up than confronting him about his "inadequate" communication skills. Asking a man, "Why won't you talk to me? Why won't you open up?" will simply make him feel like you've put him on the spot, and his stubbornness will kick in.

You must remember that men are socialized to express their emotions through activity rather than words. A father will applaud his son for getting his aggression out on the football field, but if that son tries to talk to his father about his feelings, he'll be most likely be met with a blank wall.

Men defend themselves when they feel they've been emotionally attacked by withdrawing behind what I call their "blank wall." Their faces go blank. They become emotionless, logical debaters. They seek to win the argument even at the cost of hurting you.

Avoid triggering this defensive mechanism by using activities to draw out your man. You may want to go mini-golfing, go to an amusement park, or go for a hike. The most important criterion is that it is physical; going to the movies or to dinner doesn't count. You get extra points if you choose an activity that requires you to work as a team.

As you focus on the activity rather than the lack of communication, you may very well find that you can rebuild your intimacy as a couple without needing words. Better yet, as he experiences the satisfaction of demonstrating his skills through activity, he may become comfortable enough to open up to you and share things he would have never said if you'd sat down face to face.

You can learn more about the art of interacting with men at my website, "How to Be Irresistible to Men." I offer a FREE 6-Part Mini-Course that will totally transform how you relate to men. If you're finding it hard to meet GOOD men, if you're afraid of getting hurt again, or if you're afraid that you'll never meet the man of your dreams, this FREE mini-course will turn your beliefs on their head. It's never too late to claim the kind relationship you've always wanted. -Amy Waterman

Early Detection And Breast Cancer

It is generally accepted that by the time a cancer is found by mammography or palpated during a clinical breast exam, the cancer has been growing for 8-10 years. What if we could have been alerted to the problem as it was developing, rather than wait till it is large enough to be seen by the naked eye? Would that be of interest to you?

There exists a technology that can detect an issue YEARS before a tumor can be seen on X-ray or palpated during an exam. This technology has been approved by the FDA as an adjunctive screening tool since 1982 and offers NO RADIATION, NO COMPRESSION AND NO PAIN. For women who are refusing to have a mammogram or those who want clinical correlation for an existing problem, digital infrared thermal imaging may be of interest.

There are very strict protocols both for testing and interpreting. Perhaps due to these guidelines, thermography (as with all digital technology) has exploded in its technique and capabilities. Thermal cameras detect heat emitted from the body and display it as a picture on a computer monitor. These images are unique to the person and remain stable over time. It is because of these characteristics that thermal imaging is a valuable and effective screening tool. Tumors or other breast diseases measures warmer than surrounding tissue and can thereby alert a physician to a problem before a tumor is actually palpable.

Medical doctors who interpret the breast scans are board certified thermologists. Thermography is not limited by breast density and is ideal for women who have had cosmetic or reconstructive surgery. Thermography, because it analyzes a developing process, may identify a problem several years before mammography. DITI may allow women time and opportunity to support their immune system, change their lifestyle and give their body the best chance to alter their fate.

DITI has an average sensitivity and specificity of 90%. An abnormal thermogram carries a 10x greater risk for cancer. A persistently abnormal thermogram carries a 22x greater risk for cancer. Thermography, as well as mammography is a personal choice for women. This decision ideally should be made in collaboration between you and your physician. However, thermography does not require a physician?s order. Thermographic screening is not covered by most insurance companies but is surprisingly affordable for most people. -Brenda Witt

The Perfect Pheromone Perfume

The selection of a human pheromone perfume scent is something that should not be entered into lightly. Each individual person knows what scent suits them best. Some people like light scents whilst others like to make a statement with the scent they wear. There are thousands of different types of human pheromone perfumes to choose from and it may take some time to select the one that is right for you. Dont rush into the purchase of a human pheromone scent.

Picking A Pheromone Price Range

Often price is a big factor when choosing a human pheromone perfume, it may just be that the one you think is perfect for you is the one that is the most out of reach in affordability. Many people make the mistake of tring on the scents before enquiring about the price.

To avoid disappointment, a person should find the perfumes that are in their price range and only try those scents to find which human pheromone perfume you like the best.

The right Scent choice

There are numerous different pheromones available and once you have selected a price range that you are willing to pay, it is time to decide which type you prefer. The variety of scents available for women can range from ones that smell like different types of fruit, earthy or musky types and floral scents.

If you already know what types of smells you prefer, you can greatly reduce the amount of time needed to try the scents in the store and reduce the frustration of trying to find the right human pheromone perfume for you.

When searching for the best human pheromone perfume for you, it is best if you can smell them all. Most stores will have testers that you can use, try these on a piece of paper first and when you have found one you like, then try that on your skin.

Sampling too many scents can confuse the nasal passages and you may find you are not receiving the true scent. a lot of stores these days will have a neutralizer available, such as, a jar of coffee. this will enable you to clear the nose before testing another scent.

A few manufacturers make available a small sample so that the consumer can try the product for a few days before purchasing. It generally takes about a week for a person to decide if it is the right scent for them.

Choosing a perfume scent is not difficult if you take the time to find what you like, but rushing the decision will generally result in a purchase that you are not happy with. -L Servage

Aromatherapy for Low Female Libido

Aromatherapy is being increasingly used in beauty therapies. Experts have also recognized it all over the world, as an effective healing instrument for many bodily ailments. It has been noted that aromatherapy is particularly helpful in kick starting sexual desire in both the sexes. Low female libido can be very effectively combated, using some combination of aroma oils, flavors and scents.

While it is an accepted fact that a relaxing ambience, coupled with great fragrances puts one in the mind for sex, it is true that these oils definitely have deeper properties. Apart from giving a sensual feeling, aromatic oils, if properly induced into the body can cure many problems permanently.

There are a number of oils and fragrances, used in a myriad of combinations, with different massage techniques. We will talk about a few fragrant oils that have unique properties to help deal with low female libido.

Bergamot
It is known for its refreshing fragrance, which is a combination of sweetness and spicy flavor. It will help you feel rejuvenated and put back the energy in you, so that you would want to hit the sack soon.

Cedar Wood
This rare, woody fragrance will restore vitality and give you the strength to perform in bed. The extra energy will also impart confidence in you, making you feel excited and ready for the act.

Clove
Its strong mint flavor will penetrate deep and leave you feel energized and fresh. It is known to make your senses more alert and be more aroused than ever.

Ginger
This has a strong woody, spicy scent that will make you feel warm and nice instantly. Brides in Asia use it on their weddings. When massaged onto the body, it makes one stronger and patient.

Jasmine
The sweet flower of Jasmine is known for its romantic scent. Women, to attract male attention, use it in southern India. It is worn to decorate the hair. The scintillating smell infallibly attracts the opposite sex, and urges them to get really close.

Vanilla
The very delicious smell of vanilla will make you want to lick your fingers! Not only it entices men, also the familiar fragrance imparts the feeling of love and warmth.

Rose
This flower is known for its unmatched beauty, form, color, texture and sensuous scent. Lovers all over the world convey their message of passion, through the eternal red rose – a fragrance that promotes passion and sensuality.

Ylang Ylang
This rare and exotic Chinese fragrance is known to energize and restore vitality. -Rebecca Kosco

How To Build Self-confident

The building up of self-confidence is not challenging, only it demands solitaire and intelligent effort. There should be no more stressing, no anxiousness, and no hastiness.

The story of the human who tried to jump over a hill should be retained in mind. He passed a risky way back, then ran so challenging toward the mound that when he got there he was obliged to rest down and eternal sleep. Then he realise up and walked through the hill.

Men waver to take a step one and only style or the some other lest they make the bad thing, and this look of indecision and vacillation oftentimes goes them into the very misunderstandings they would avoid. It is like a adult male on a bicycle, striving to steer fair of an obstacle on the road, but all the while keeping his eye fixed upon it so that a hit is necessary.

There is nothing more disastrous to human building up than frailty of purpose. "He who hesitates is lost," while he develops big who puts on "the fearless spirit of firmness." The world mostly takes a man at his own valuation. If you make an opinion that you are fearful, you will beside-elbowed and required upon at nearly each work.

The other daytime I seen a dog leisurely reach a cat on the street, and to each show there was no hard on either position. The cat looked him straight in the eye as he drawn near, and the dog took back her confident glance and quietly went along on. Then the cat, looking a pleasing chance for escape, ran out across the street, but the moment the dog saw her moving he turned over and kept up in hot hurry. It was cat and dog for some grounds, when abruptly the cat halted, loved her back and looked defiantly at her adversary. He halted, took hold of his breath, blinked falteringly, turned up his nose, and walked off. As long as the cat showed fear and run away, the dog pursued her; but the moment she took her stand, he honorable her.

You, who figure upon this study of self-confidence, resolution to observe it to completion with bulldog perseverance. Realize that no weak-hearted, unpredictable efforts will achieve your wanted aim. -Ada Denis

Fight Cellulite

Fight Cellulite - Diet, Exercise and More

A lot of Americans know what cellulite is, that stunning fatty matter that dimples the skin of its helpless victims. Despite the fact that numerous people have heard of the treatments available for the reduction of cellulite, including scrubs, creams, massage treatments, laser treatments and electrotherapy, the secret to cellulite annihilation may actually lie in the diet. The correlation between cellulite and diet is more important than you might think. The key behind eating with the purpose of fighting cellulite is to focus on foods that endorse healthy cells. In addition, exercise is also significant. Read below for more on how diet and exercise affects cellulite.

Fight Cellulite - with Diet

Fighting cellulite starts within, with internal nutrition and adequate water in take. In addition, there are several types of foods that should be found in the diet in order to promote health on a cellular and tissue level. One of the most important dietary categories that needs to be incorporated into the diet is protein. These include proteins that are found in lean meats such as chicken and turkey, beans, and legumes, and peanuts.

In addition to proteins, it is also recommended that a lecithin supplement is added to the diet, or that foods rich in lecithin are eaten. Lecithin rich foods include tomatoes, spinach, soy and eggs. Finally, fatty acids are also important in the maintenance of healthy cells. These include acids found in fish, nuts, olive oil and avocados.

But it's not just what you eat that is important in the fight against cellulite, it is also what you drink that matters. The most important drink one can drink is pure water if you can get it. The recommend dosage is eight, eight-ounce glasses a day for a total of 64 ounces. In addition, pomegranate juice and raspberry tea are also recommended for fighting cellulite.

Fight Cellulite - Exercise To Win

It's no secret that exercise has a remarkable impact on our health. When additional calories are burned then are taken in, the body begins to break down its fat assets, which will have an effect in the look of cellulite. In addition, exercise increases circulation and helps the lymphatic process of removing toxins and broken down cells. internal circulation is not the only focus of a more natural approach to cellulite removal. external circulation can also be improved by taking a dry brush and brushing the affected areas upwards toward the heart daily. -Kev Pine

Fiber Activates Natural Cancer

You've probably heard that including a lot of fiber in your diet will help prevent constipation and reduce your risk of colon cancer, too. But now scientists at the Medical College of Georgia (MCG) have discovered that roughage does more to actively fight cancer than anyone realized before -- incredibly, roughage works with beneficial bacteria in the colon to activate a receptor in the body that can kill cancer.

The research, just published in the April issue of the journal Cancer Research, concludes that a receptor dubbed GPR109A is activated by butyrate, a metabolite produced by fiber-eating bacteria found in the colon. The result? The receptor sends signals that cause a process known as apoptosis, the death of cancer cells. What's more, the receptor also blocks a protein that causes inflammation. That's important because inflammation is known to be a precursor to cancer.

"We know the receptor is silenced in cancer but it's not like the gene goes away," Dr. Vadivel Ganapathy, corresponding author and chair of the Department of Biochemistry and Molecular Biology in the MCG School of Medicine, said in a statement to media.

Cancer typically gets the upper hand because the disease can shut down the cancer-fighting receptor by chemically modifying its gene. This process, technically known as DNA methylation, allows malignancies to turn genes off that would thwart the cancer's growth. That explains why drug companies are working on therapies called DNA methylation inhibitors as possible cancer treatments. But it appears eating large amounts of roughage could activate butyrate and fight cancer, naturally.

"Colon cancer does not want butyrate produced by bacteria to come inside so it silences the transporter. It also does not want butyrate to act on the cell from the outside so it silences the receptor," Dr. Ganapathy explained in the media statement. "It does not want to have anything to do with butyrate... We think receptor activation by butyrate suppresses inflammation, thereby suppressing progression of inflamed cells into cancer cells."

The MCG researchers suggest cancer patients could benefit by taking high doses of butyrate -- but the substance tastes terrible. Instead, Dr. Ganapathy has suggested taking large amounts of the B vitamin niacin; this could spur the same anti-cancer activity that butyrate does, so it may prove to be a good substitute. Moreover, he is planning to conduct clinical trials that compare the course of colon cancer patients who eat a high fiber diet or receive butyrate or niacin therapy along with taking DNA methylation inhibitors that activate GPR109A.

Interested in taking control of your colon cancer risk? In addition to increasing the amount of fiber in your diet, the National Institutes of Health advises exercising regularly, reducing or eliminating red meat and processed foods and consuming a wide variety of fruits and vegetables. -naturalnews

Coconut Milk as Natural Skin Care

Coconut milk is fast becoming a natural skin care ingredient. It has a very high fat content and is also very high in natural fatty acids. Fatty acids are natural antiseptic that gently deep cleans impurities perfect even for ultra sensitive skin. It has been confirmed by skincare experts that topical use of coconut milk can help cure some skin conditions.

Coconut milk, when used with cleansers can take away dirt and oil from the skin. It creates a clean, soft, and smooth complexion. Coconut milk salt scrubs gently exfoliate the top skin layer while leaving the next layer smooth and supple.

Natural skin care products that are organically made contain no chemicals like artificial scents, colors, and even preservatives. They key is to read the labels of the products you are buying. It also helps you to check what other benefits you can get from the product. There are some coconut milk cleansers that have anti-bacterial ingredients that are good for your skin. But generally, coconut milk will help to moisturize and soften the skin. To ensure top quality ingredients and results, make sure the product uses real coconut milk, not an artificial substitute.

When buying a coconut milk cosmetic, make sure what is written on the label is “organic coconut milk”, and not the “light” or “diluted” version. The diluted type has less lauric acid. Lauric acid is converted into monolaurin by the body. This is a natural health aid. Mixing coconut milk with other chemicals make it less effective, if any, skincare value.

Coconut milk has higher values of antioxidants – phenolic antioxidants, as compared to coconut oils. One reason for this is the fact that organic coconut growers plant coconut in soils rich in nutritional value. It makes your skin respond to the product making it more effective than diluted or chemically enhanced products. It is a fact that if you have sensitive skin, coconut milk is the suitable natural skin care product for you. -rianne de leon

10 Way To Relax at Work

If you want to perform well at your workplace, you should know how to balance working hard as well as relaxing your body and mind to perform at your best. Here are ten great tips on how you can relax more at work.

The people who often perform the best at work know relaxation is not just for slackers, but for high performers who know that giving your mind and body rest is key. Here are the best ways to stay relaxed to perform your best.

1. Eat Breakfast.

Start your day with a full stomach and you should be powered up and ready to take on the day.

2. Get A Massage.

Massages are a great way to release tension and feel energized. A great massage once in awhile usually does wonders.

3. Laugh It Off

Laughter is always the best medicine and your stress level can be lowered with a good laugh.

4. Say No To Procrastination

Procrastination only leads to stress when you prolong the tasks you need to do. Once you complete tasks, you get a feeling of satisfaction and relaxation.

5. Get a Comfortable Chair

You most likely sit in an office chair the majority of the day. You might as well make it a comfortable chair so you are not distracting by discomfort caused by an uncomfortable chair.

6. Clean Up Your Work Space

A messy desk often keeps your mind distracted. When you clean up your desk, you'll be able to relax when you are at your desk and can do your work.

7. Wear Headphones

Not only can you listen to your favorite music without bothering anybody, you can also keep other distracting noise out so you can concentrate on your work.

8. Use a Portable Fan

Sometimes the ventilation system in your office does not do a good job keeping you cool. For those instances, have your own portable fan so you can enjoy a breeze anytime you want.

9. Drink Plenty of Water

You should drink plenty of water at work to stay refreshed and reap the health benefits of drinking enough water.

10. Read a Travel Book During Your Break

A great way to stay relaxed when you're at work is to imagine places you wish you could be. Reading a travel book is a great way to accomplish this is by reading about places you wish you could be while you're at work. -Andrew Cho

Makeup For Oily Skin

We can't all be blessed with normal skin. Unfortunately, for many of us, oily skin is our struggle. On the positive side, those with oily skin have skin that doesn't show the signs of aging as quickly as other skin types. So, when life gives you lemons, create lemon juice and water to apply on oily skin. Rinse with warm water.

Oily skin can occur at different stages in your life; adolescence, pregnancy, and menopause. Hormones can play a role in oily skin. Oily skin is characterized by large pores, dullness, a grease-like appearance, and roughness. The sebaceous gland produces excess oil thus giving the skin the shine associated with oily skin. Washing the face several times a day can make the situation worse, causing the gland to produce even more oil. Choosing the right skin regimen and makeup for oily skin is not as difficult as it might seem.

Identifying Your Skin Type

It is important to know your skin type. Examine your face closely. Do you see large pores, flakes, or redness? Each can indicate a different skin type or be indicators of oily skin. Take a tissue to your face and blot. Did you absorb oil? If your self-examination reveals large pores and oil on the tissue, you could have oily skin. The redness can be from excessive washing or sensitive skin. I have combination skin. It is very oily with large pores in the t-zone and dry around my cheeks. If you are still unsure, consult a dermatologist or aesthetician.

Taking Care of Oily Skin

Caring for your skin now will provide benefits for the future. Your skin will thank you five years from now. Know how to take care of you skin, both inside and out. It is important to drink water so that the skin remains hydrated. Taking vitamins, especially vitamin B2 and B5 will also help your body. These vitamins can help the skin look more radiant and improve paleness.

Products for Preparing Oily Skin for Makeup

When cleansing, use an oil-based cleanser since it will help dissolve oil better. Do not use harsh cleaners that leave the skin feeling tight. This tightness will restrict oil flow and lead to clogged pores later. Also, massage the face when cleansing to avoid pushing dirt and oil into the pores. Scrubbing will clog the pores. Rinse with warm water to help dissolve oil. Use a mud or clay mask one or two times a week. Read labels. Look for products that are for oily skin. Avoid products that contain alcohol since alcohol dries the skin. Petroleum based products such as mineral oil contain too much oil and can further clog pores. Use astringents containing acetone. Acetone dissolves oil better. Moisturizers need to be oil-free. You may only need to moisturize certain areas such as around the eyes. Mature skin will need to moisturize the entire face.

I find that applying cucumber juice before applying makeup helps my skin's appearance. Witch-hazel will do the same. Both are excellent ways to create a more balanced ph for the skin. You may even want to spritz lavender water on your face several times a day. It is a good hydrator for oily skin as well as providing antiseptic properties.

Makeup for Oily Skin

Read labels. There are some items that should be avoided and some items that you should look for in makeup for oily skin. There are certain makeup companies that are known for their work in designing products for specific skin types. I recommend Clinique. It has a reputation for excellent care and products. I also like Jane Iredale Cosmetics. This is a mineral based line used by many dermatologists.

Avoid

• Avoid products containing oil from petroleum. This includes mineral oil. Use oil-free makeup or makeup that is intended to benefit oily skin.
• Avoid makeup that contains alcohol. Alcohol will strip the skin of oil, which may cause the body to produce even more.
• Look for ingredients such as bismuth oxychloride and dimenthicone. Both can clog pores and may cause blemishes. These are commonly found in foundation or powder based products.
  

Beneficial

• Find foundations that contain titanium dioxide, a naturally occurring sun protector.
• Makeup for oily skin should contain serecite to reduce the appearance of pores and help absorb oil.
• Kaolin clay added in foundation will help oil control.
• Zinc oxide used in makeup will act as an anti-inflammatory.
  

A makeup artist will use products designed for a customer's skin type in order to promote healthy skin. It is equally important for the makeup artist to become familiar with products and ingredients for specific skin care. Knowing how to take care of a customer's skin will benefit the client and the makeup artist's reputation. -Asuncion Parra Llorente

Natural Remedies to Prevent Kidney Stones

Most of the time, kidney stones do not have any symptoms. However, that is again quite dependent on the size of the stone. If the stone is large then it can lead to hindrance in urination and block the urinary tract. In such cases, the classic symptom is severe pain in the urinary tract while passing urine. If the stone is large, then the patient can also be nauseous and vomiting may follow with pain in the lower abdominal region.

If you have kidney stones without symptoms then you can count yourself lucky. They can sometimes be so small that they do not cause any pain, and we don't even realize that we have them until we feel the pain that is associated with them. If you don't have any pain then chances are you will never realize that you have had them. Having pain in the abdomen, back, genitals and groin area are common with kidney stones that reach a certain size.

Sometimes it may take a while for a kidney stone to show you any symptoms. They could even possibly be overlooked at a doctor's office because of not having any immediate symptoms. Once your doctor finds you have them and sometimes this can happen during a routine exam. He will tell you some helpful cures that may remove the stones. Drinking more fluids is the number one thing to start doing once you know for sure you have kidney stones.

Until your kidney stone passes, you should only drink distilled water. Distilled water is water in its purest form with no minerals. Distilled water will not add to the composition of the kidney stone(s). You can find distilled water at any grocery store.

Although, eating with large quantities of fruits and vegetables can provide excellent amount of vitamins and minerals, you should also know that these foods also provide oxalates. So if you have a tendency for kidney stone formation, you should inform your health care provider to they can help monitor these levels.

When formulating the right mixture of lemon juice for your kidney stones, there are a couple different recipes. You will want to experiment a little with your water to lemon juice ratio to best fit your taste buds. It is no surprise that this concoction of lemon juice for your kidney stones will be just somewhat tart. The most popular recipe starts with a gallon jug of water and about one cup of reconstituted lemon juice. It does not really matter if you purchase a gallon of spring or distilled water from the store specifically for this purpose or whether you just fill up an old gallon milk jug for the task. -John Adison

Top 10 Detox Foods

Green leafy vegetables - good sources of many vitamins and minerals your body needs to stay healthy, like vitamin A, vitamin C, and calcium. They are also great sources of fiber. It offers major benefits to your entire body, including your brain, your bones and your heart, while helping to prevent cancer, detoxify your body, boost your immune system and give your more energy.

Lemons - is widely known for its healing powers and is used in many different ways. Lemon is also a diuretic. This means it is good for people with urinary tract infections and high uric acid problems, such as those with arthritis or rheumatism because it helps flush out all the toxins and bad bacteria.

Watercress - is a member of the cruciferous family which includes broccoli, kale and mustard. It contains three times as much vitamin E as lettuce, more iron than spinach, and more calcium than milk. Watercress moves things out of your system by acting as a diuretic, plus it’s rich in minerals.

Garlic - has been used for its beneficial effects for thousands of years. It is a blood cleanser, a natural antibiotic it also reduces blood fats thinning the blood and lowering blood pressure. In addition to the bulb’s cardio benefits, it activates liver enzymes that help filter out junk.

Green tea - chemicals derived from green tea dramatically boosted production of a group of key detoxification enzymes in people with low levels of these beneficial proteins. GST (glutathione S-transferase) enzymes are believed to be crucial to the body’s defense against cancer-causing chemicals and other toxins.

Broccoli sprouts - contain a chemical that kills the bacteria responsible for most stomach cancer, say researchers, confirming the dietary advice that moms have been handing out for years. Broccoli sprouts are particularly useful for detox and activate the liver’s phase II detox enzymes.

Sesame seeds - Sesame seeds help protect the liver from damage caused by alcohol and other toxins. And if you want more than just what comes on your hamburger bun try tahini, a sesame seed paste commonly used in Asian dishes.

Cabbage - is a longstanding dietary staple throughout the world and is so widely cultivated and stores so well that it is available throughout the year. The cabbage has beneficial properties that are known to prevent cancer, among other known diseases. The phytonutrients in cruciferous vegetables initiate an intricate dance inside our cells in which gene response elements direct and balance the steps among dozens of detoxification enzyme partners, each performing its own protective role in perfect balance with the other dancers.

Psyllium - is used to treat constipation. It absorbs liquid in the intestines, swells, and forms a bulky stool, which is easy to pass. Psyllium is cultivated for it use as an herbal medicine. The husk of the psyllium plant is a very rich source of natural fiber. Psyllium facilitates regular bowel movements, dredges the colon of dangerous toxic residues and accelerates the entire detox process.

Fresh Fruits - All fresh fruit is good for detox provided it is eaten on its own, not before, with, or after food. A fresh fruit or fruits juice fasting is often recommended for a short (3-day) fast to cleanse and detoxify. Fruit can be fresh, frozen or dried. It includes apples, pears, oranges, grapefruit, bananas, raisins, pineapple, mango, kiwi fruit, raspberries, strawberries, blackcurrants, melon, sultanas, nectarines and peaches. -itot54joni

DETOX FOR BEAUTIFUL SKIN

Did you know every day an estimated 450 grams (1 pound) of toxins leave the body in sweat, carried out through the skin. This is possible, however, only if the pores through which sweat travels are open. Every day our skin cells regenerate as old ones die and new ones are created. As we age, the process slows down and, as skin cells die, new ones, which replace them, don't appear as rapidly; specifically, this means the dead cells are now pushed off the surface so it's harder for them to shed and they build up. Cosmetically speaking this creates a dull appearance; in terms of detox, blockages are caused that reduce the amount of toxin excreted from the cells.

Detoxing the body to afford the skin its optimal opportunity for beauty consists of the following steps:

Food.
These top 10 detox foods have been shown to provide the best all-around nutrients that work hard to get rid of the toxins in your body. Apples, avocados, artichokes, beet root, cruciferous vegetables, garlic, kiwi, prunes, seaweed, and watercress. Other honorable mention goes to alfalfa, asparagus, bananas, bran cereals, brazil nuts, carrots, eggs, and tofu. Vitally important is water, which is needed to flush toxins through our system. 8 glasses daily is the standard. You can also eat high water foods like watermelon, celery, cucumbers, pears, and grapes. Reduce toxin intake switch to organic foods wherever possible. Always rinse foods before eating to rid them of pesticide residuals. Eat only lean cuts of meat and cut off any noticeable fat.

Avoid sugar at all costs.
A recent study at New York State University in Buffalo documented that within two hours of eating 300 calories of sugar (the equivalent of one can of soda and some chocolate), the number of free radicals increased by 140%. The USDA says consumption should never exceed more than 40 grams of sugar a day.

Avoid alcohol, caffeine, and nicotine.

Exercise
Two forms of exercise are particularly beneficial in detoxing the body.

1. aerobic exercise supports detox by encouraging sweating, increasing circulation, breaks down fat, and stimulates the lymphatic system. To get maximum benefits, between 30-90 minutes per session, 3-5 sessions per week.
   
2. Eastern exercise, the most common are Yoga, Tai Chi, and Qi Gong. Specific advantages to Yoga aiding the detox process are by stretching the muscles, toxins are released, they teach proper breathing, balances inner body energy, and stimulates the lymphatic system. A 20 minute Eastern exercise session, 3 times weekly is thought to be beneficial.
   

Stress Reduction.
Not enough can be said about the importance of reducing stress for detoxification. A recent study published in the American Journal of Hypertension found that Yoga reduces blood pressure, which has been induced by stress, can be significantly reduced in as little as three minutes. The importance thing is, the less stressed you are, it's less likely you'll turn to the "comforting toxins" like alcohol, nicotine, sugar, and fat. Simple rules for stress reduction are avoid stressful situations, sleep a minimum of 8 hours per night, and use periodic relaxation times during stressful situations.

The top 10 stress fighters are as follows:

• Plan a head. Manage your time and your duties.
  
• Cut down on caffeine. Get your lift from ginger and peppermint teas, which boost energy and mental clarity.
  
• Practice Yoga. Even gentle stretching every day is beneficial.
  
• B Vitamins. Include breakfast cereals, whole grain bread, milk, meat, yogurt, eggs, and bananas.
  
• Release tension during the day. Plan periodic tension release sessions Eat carbohydrates for lunch, 1 to 2 ounces of bread, pasta, rice, or potato
  
• Exercise. Just 10 minutes of walking a day helps detox Aromatherapy, 15 minutes daily provides a calm psychological tension reducer Supplement your adrenal glands ginseng is the most commonly recommended "booster" in a dose of 500 to 1,000 mg/per day
  
• Good sleep. Milk or dairy products and protein contain tryptophan, which help aid deep sleep. Hand wash most germs enter the body through the nose or eyes when we touch our face. Washing your hands hourly cuts the amount of germs on them and so reduces the risk of pollutants, germs, bacteria, mold, and infection. Valuable nutrients and antioxidants are used up fighting pollutants, etc. and, during the process, allow toxins to increase. In a recent study the US Navy conducted in Illinois, hourly hand washing cut sick days by 45%.
• Take a sauna. The human immune system works better at slightly higher temperatures than normal. Europeans have documented a sauna, at least temporarily, increases immunity. Take one whenever possible, 2-3 times weekly is ideal.
  
• Take supplements a host of nutrients can help repair some of the damage that improperly detoxifying causes. Vitamin B12, as an example, helps rebuild cells in the lungs and Vitamin B3 opens cells that nicotine has damaged. Take a good multi-vitamin that has mineral supplements.
  
• Massage. A massage can be conducted on body specific areas like the liver or kidneys that react positively to stimulation. Kidneys and liver are key organs in the elimination of toxins in the detoxification process. If you have a medical condition, seek advice from a physician before treating yourself, some oils can interfere with medical conditions including epilepsy and diabetes. It is important to understand that the skin will reflect the health of the entire body as the circulation system ends up depositing the toxins in the skin cells as we discussed above. A commitment to the seven steps above, in connection with the use of premium natural skin care products, allow our skin to have the glow of beauty we all desire. Skin care products should be botanically based and never include petrochemical or animal/animal by-product ingredients.

IH Distribution LLC sells a premium line of natural skin care products, which are botanically based and are developed for specific skin types. The revolutionary NutriMinC RE9 anti-aging products are especially helpful to those of us who live less than perfect lives and can?t daily go without coffee, smoking, sun, late nights, and general living in the 21st century. They also have complimentary nutritional supplements, specifically designed for women, men, and children, and aromatherapy products that were originally designed for the European spa industry. -John Russell

Can Men And Women Be Friends?

Or When Harry Met Sally Did He Really Just Want to Jump Her Bones?

Men and women can't really be just friends, can they? Of course not. There's always that pesky sexual tension to contend with. And what about the spouse, spousal equivalent, or boyfriend/girlfriend who's sure to be jealous? Plus, there's the biological/sociological nesting imperative that women contend with and the hunting imperative that seems to drive men.

A number of years ago, a landmark study published by Dr. Don O'Meara, a sociology professor at Raymond Walters College, identified the following four key obstacles to the success of male-female friendships

? The inability to define the relationship

? A fear of confronting feelings of sexual attraction

? The inability of both partners to see each other as equals

? Society's response to a non-romantic relationship

(This is all of the above rolled into one: What's going on here? Who do they think they are? They just won't admit that they're hot for each other!)

Let's face it, when you come right down to it ? there are just too many impediments and too many inherent differences between the sexes for cross-gender friendship to work. Right?

Wrong, wrong, and double-wrong ? at least in todays world.

Fifty years ago, when Harry met Sally, he was a breadwinner who worked outside the home and she was a stay-at-home mom (or stay-at-home spinster). Harry and Sally had very little in common and very few opportunities to explore their commonality. Their paths never crossed except at a church social, perhaps, or in situations that were specifically created to foster romance and, by extension, procreation and the continuation of the species. (Not the stuff sonnets are made of, perhaps, but good for society.)

That was then. This is now.

21st Century men and women follow their passions inside and outside the home and stand shoulder to shoulder as equals in most situations. In 2002, Harry and Sally work side by side at the office. They argue head-to-head at the boardroom table. They run hip to hip on the jogging trail. They may not see eye to eye on every issue, but they freely debate them in Internet chatrooms.

So today, not only do Harry and Sally have a solid foundation of shared interests on which to build a real friendship, they also have time and space to pursue a cross-gender friendship and a society that encourages them to do so. In fact, experts tell us that in todays world, men and women in platonic friendships enjoy dozens and dozens of benefits from their relationships.

Interestingly, men seem to get more out of cross-sex friendship. In a study by a psychologist in private practice on Long Island in New York State, men rated cross-sex friendships higher in overall quality than their same-sex friendships. Men reported they most enjoyed talking and sharing with women - something they didn't do with male friends.

All that sharing that men find so appealing ? organic though it may be to women -- can be a bit of a drain, so les femmes say they turn to les hommes for a different dynamic. With men, women say they enjoy the lightness of not having to carry someone else's emotional ?baggage.? Women may also derive a sense of safety and protection from their male platonic friends ? much as they might from a big brother. Interestingly, women say the chance to learn ?what guys are REALLY thinking? is the number 1 benefit of cross-gender friendship.

So does Harry WANT Sally? You bet. But if he can't have her ? that way,? friendship will do quite nicely, thank you! -Michael Ferrell

Beat Stress and Stay Cucumber Cool

Things aren't going quite right, frustration setting in, you can feel your blood pressure rising? Here's some helpful tips to keep you cool as a cucumber. - Having a bath can soothe the soul and the body. Add your favourite scent, add some candles, close your eyes and relax or grab your favorite book. Close the door and tell everyone it's your time out and you're not to be disturbed. - Get outside and excercise. Excercising releases endorphins and alleviates tension. Something as simple as a power walk can do wonders for your mood and stress level. If possible take a walk away from the urban distractions. If there is a trail or park where you can retreat it will do wonders for your sanity. Between the walk, the flower fragrances, and the smell of fresh air you'll be feeling better in no time at all. - If you awaken feeling stressed. Take a few minutes to calm your body. For one minute breath in deeply through your nose and out through your mouth. Get out of bed and do 20 jumping jacks or run on the spot for 30 seconds to get your energy flowing. Eat a healthy breakfast and then decide what one goal or task your going to complete for the day. - Don't stress yourself out by writing out a task list that is simply too big to manage. Instead choose 5 most important things you need to accomplish that day. List them from most important [must complete] to least important. Once you've accomplished those 5 tasks you can start a new list. - Take time out - meditate for five minutes. Using a light pressure, push the palms of your hands into your closed eyes. Slowly release and take deep breaths, then push your palms back into your eyes. Repeat for 3-4 minutes, then rest your head in your hands, relax, and take deep breaths before lifting your head. - Stretching is an excellent way to relieve tension and stress. Stretching will release tension from your neck and back. - Stop and think about a situation or place that makes you happy. This is rather like a recess or time out. By thinking pleasant thoughts your stress level can be dramatically lowered. - Slow down. Rushing can cause your stress levels to rise. Plan your appointements and commitments so that you have ample time to get from point a to b. Start your day by leisurely getting dressed and applying your makeup. This will set the tone for your day and help keep you de-stressed. - Vitamins can be a great help in reducing stress. Take a multi-vitamin daily. Have B Stress vitamins on hand for those very busy or stressful days. Eat foods high in magnesium, Vitamin C, and B5. - Reduce your caffeine intake. - Seek calmness. If the living room feels chaotic and stressful then take five minutes and remove yourself to somewhere tranquil and peaceful. It could be a deck, your bedroom, or your front lawn. - Music is a wonderful stress reliever. Put on your favourite cd and sit still and listen for at least 15 minutes, 1/2 hour is even better. Playing music while you accomplish your tasks can also reduce stress. - Carry your favorite bottle of essential oil in your purse. When stress feels like its about to get the better of you. Open the cap and inhale deeply. Camomile and lavender are universal stress busters but you can choose any calming oil that appeals to you. - Breath deep - breathe up from the bottom of your feet through your body and up to your third eye [between your eyebrows]. When you inhale imagine your body melting away. Deep breathing can stop stress in it's tracks.

Don't let stress wither you, stay cool as a cucumber and beat the heat. When ever things are beginning to feel overwhelming, stop and take care of yourself using these helpful tips. -estatejewelryinternational

Aromatherapy for a Broken Heart

The heart is a very fragile and strong organ. It is the center of our being and a very vulnerable focal point. The heart plays a role in every function of the body. It can be "hurt", "lost" and left in San Francisco. It can also "skip a beat" or be attacked by a stroke. Our heart is our life force and in Chinese medicine it is the fire element. Yet it can "fail" us, as in heart failure. The heart has rhythm and can block, just not in a football game. Sometime, our heart talks to us with sounds and murmurs. There are some people who listen to their hearts speak to them while others have not listened and may have taken a path of least resistance. There is time, however, that we all listen when our heart speaks to us. That time is when there is what is called a broken heart.

When the heart is broken, a spectrum of feelings is manifested. These feelings consist of hurt, pain, anger, sadness, relief and forgiveness. In the process of living with these feelings and going through the experience of having a broken heart, what happens physically and emotionally to women?

In my practice, many women have scheduled an appointment with me for an annual gynecological examination or they were returning for their weekly obstetrical examination. Within the first few minutes of interviewing the patient about her medical history since the last visit, I realize there is a strong emotional and physical component to the visit that is not directly related to what is considered a routine exam. In essence, the emotional and physical components are indicative of a broken heart. I make a holistic assessment of the patient's medical history, emotional, spiritual, physical and clinical findings. These cases may warrant a referral to a specialist, depending on her status at that moment. A follow up visit is always scheduled.

Throughout time, it has been said individuals have died of a broken heart. For instance, a wife died and then her husband died from natural causes within a week or a sister died and her sibling died naturally very soon thereafter. Were the subsequent deaths just a coincidence or did they die from a broken heart?

Researchers have started scientifically looking at such cases and calling it the Broken Heart Syndrome. In health care terminology we call this condition stress Cardiomyopathy. Cardiomyopathy is heart muscle weakness. It can occur after various emotional and physical stressors such as fear, surprise, anger and the death of a loved one. Stress cardiomyopathy affects primarily women and occurs most frequently in middle aged women and women over age sixty. Many of the women that have been studied have no prior history of heart disease and the majorities are postmenopausal. There is no known reason for the increase frequency in women in these age groups and postmenopausal women in particular. Physical stressors can fuel a stroke or seizure and as mentioned emotional stressors such as fear, grief and anger can cause this condition.

Women with dis-stressed can suddenly and unexpectedly experience a heavy feeling in the chest, shortness of breath, abnormal rhythm of the heart, low blood pressure, congestive heart failure and shock. It can be life threatening. She may appear sad, express feelings of sadness, lock of concentration and difficulty sleeping at night. The good news is there can also be a quick and complete recovery.

Aromatherapy is a fantastic complementary therapy. One hundred percent essential oils are more potent than herbs -less is better than more. They are volatile oils which are obtained directly from the root, flower petals, leaves or skins of fruit. The price can range from approximately five dollars to several hundred dollars for a half ounce. It takes 2000 pounds of rose petals to make one pound of oil. Therefore there is a variance in the cost of essential oils. The essential oils widely used to restore the heart are Rose Otto, Jasmine sambac, Neroli, Rosewood, and Lavender. Essential oil blends can be used through inhalation and application methods. They can be inhaled by using a diffuser, sniffed directly from the bottle (less expensive oils) or they can be used in the bath/shower or through vapor and nebulizer. They can be applied by massage or as perfume oil.

Lavender has a long history as a medicine and perfume. In Chinese medicine it circulates heart Qi. It can restore vitality, relieve tension and calm a person. Dried lavender buds can be added to the bath or a tea can be made from the dried herb. To make a single note lavender perfume oil add three drops of 100% Highland or Bulgarian lavender essential oil to one tablespoon of jojoba oil. Jojoba oil is a stable carrier oil, won't rancid and is relatively odorless. The benefits of essential oils are numerous. However, care must be taken in using them. Aromatherapy is very technical. One oil can cancel out the effects of another oil. Some oils are toxic and what may benefit one person may have no effect on another person. One fragrance may be pleasant to one person and offensive to another. Determine which oil is best for you. Our behavior is affected by the aromatic scent. They also help the body regulate itself and come into balance. Therefore the stressors and feelings produced by a broken are relieved with the consistent use of aromatherapy. -Johnetta Miner

Affect Of Alcohol On Women

Women and Alcohol

It is often quoted that females have a lower tolerance to alcohol than males and this is an indisputable fact but few people ever go on to tell exactly what the affect is and why. Hopefully this article will help shed light on exactly what happens when you drink alcohol and why you often do things that you regret later. Also give some insight into what alcohol actually does to the brain. This is not an anti alcohol article, it is presented in the hope that knowledge will influence attitude. The fact that this article is being published at the height of the Christmas/New Year festive season is coincidental; it contains valuable knowledge that is useful at all times.

Alcohol is a testosterone stimulant and the affect it has on women is based upon the fact that testosterone is not the dominant hormone in the female make-up, therefore they are usually unable to control the affect of testosterone as men do on a daily, even hourly, basis. Dealing with the bravado that testosterone produces is not a common experience to a woman and therefore they rarely know how to cope with it. This explains why they are more prone to carrying out acts that are normally not in their nature when drinking. The stimulation of testosterone initially makes them loud as the bravado affect kicks in; a feeling of invincibility that leads them to drop all inhibitions follows this. If there is a dance floor they are liable to seek it as a challenge to dance with a view to drawing self-attention. They meet with strangers when stimulated testosterone has them feeling invincible and there is no need for me to point out the dangers that this can create.

As the affect of alcohol dwindles and the real self re-appears there is true self-doubt regarding what they may, or may not, have done and whether they can face the people they were celebrating with again. This is caused by the lack of testosterone stimulation and the reassertion of the true personality as opposed to the testosterone induced personality that occurs whilst drinking.

The other affects that leave terrible hangovers to contend with are so well known that I will not go into them in this article. Hopefully if you have knowledge concerning why you become vulnerable while drinking you will be more careful concerning the quantity that you drink; especially when you are not in the home environment with trusted family and friends around you.

To have a drink can be fun, just be aware of what happens to your body and mind when you have too many. The stimulation of testosterone starts with the first sip.

A hangover is the result of alcohol dehydrating your body. Try to drink at least a quart (1 liter) of water between drinking and bed to help re-hydrate your body. -David McCarthy

3 Steps To Sexy Legs

Guys do get distracted by long, lean, sexy legs peeking from the slit of a skirt, or flaunted in a mini skirt.

Any woman can have sexy legs. All you need to do is to keep your legs toned and wax them regularly.

Even cross dressers are able to make their legs look sexy.

To start with, first, you need to get your legs in shape. That means, get off your butt and start walking. Walking, running, jogging and climbing stairs really tone your legs.

Step 1. Tone your legs.

If you are serious about getting your legs very well toned, make that effort after work, to run for 45 minutes each day. You could run around the compound, run your way home, run on a jogging track or even in the gym. Just do it before dinner, straight out of the office.

On rainy days, climb the stairs instead. Try climbing up and down the stairs for a stretch of 30 minutes, without stopping.

Walk more. Walk instead of driving. If you take the public transport, get off a few stops before your actual destination and walk the rest of the way.

Getting toned legs takes effort. The end result is worth it. A plus that comes with these toned legs would be a slimmer body from all that exercise.

Step 2. Remove unwanted leg hair.

Next, wax your legs. Get a waxing kit or try sugaring instead. Or you could invest in an epilator which you can use to remove your unwanted body hair for years to come. Waxing, sugaring or using the epilator remove your leg hair from the roots. The result is smoother skin. Hair regrowth is smoother as compared to the stubbly results you get from shaving or using a depilatory.

Step 3. Flaunt your smooth, well toned legs.

Smooth, well toned legs are always hot. They look even sexier in a pair of stockings. The sheen from the stockings or pantyhose highlight your legs.

Pantyhose makes your legs look smoother. More refined. More sophisticated. A must for when you want to look put together. Sophisticated. A must for the office, boardroom and the dinner date. If you have a problem with your tummy, go for the contr ol top pantyhose. That would hold your tummy in. In fact, a good pantyhose holds in your legs, making them look more slender.

Then there are the fishnet stockings. These are about pure, raw sex appeal. For that glamorous night. For those moments when you want to turn heads. For movie star on the red carpet treatment. These add the finishing touch.

Wear a dress, a skirt or shorts that show off as much leg as you want. -Janice Wee

How To Use Avocado As Your Hair Care Product

Let's role on. life must go on and the life of your natural hair is in your hand. Take care of your hair with avocado and don't let it look dull due of incorrect caring. It's your responsibility for having good looking hair since your appearances is based upon your healthy hair. You probably need good natural hair care products.

But, what does it mean when people said about natural hair care products? Well, hair care products that are advertised "natural" may probably mean free from chemical substance or it may also environmentally friendly products with plant and herbal additives as their substances.

How do you choose natural hair care products? Hmmm?.when you purchase hair care products please read the labels and make your own decisions on what level of "natural" ingredients you wish to accept in the hair care products that you use on your hair. This is the most responsible way to select the best products for you.

But there is other way; besides using natural hair care products, you can do some favor for your hair to make it more wonderful here using real natural fruit. This is the hair conditioning treatment using avocado. Check this out:

- Mash one avocado which is recommended for its hydrating benefits and proteins and mix with one-tablespoon lemon juice, one teaspoon of sea salt, and one tablespoon of pure aloe until it becomes a paste.

- Comb through hair with your fingertips.

- Cover hair with a plastic shower cap or bag, and wrap a towel around it to seal in the treatment.

- Leave in for 20-30 minutes and enjoy a great book, CD or even better - just savor the peace and quiet!

- Unwrap you newly conditioned hair. Rinse, shampoo and rinse again for soft, luxurious hair!

Of course there are other fruits you can use for your hair natural treatment. But the step you do is the same like have been described above. You will have good looking hair by the time you check the Internet for more natural hair care products. -Loraine Lesley