How To Stop A Divorce After Your Trust Was Broken

I believe that everyone who ties the knot fervently hopes that this one could last forever. Be that as it may many marriages encounter problems and of course, couples would want to know if there are surefire ways of how to stop a divorce.

You made a mistake by being unfaithful which deeply hurt your partner and place your marriage in danger of being dissolved. In the hope of saving it, you promise and try to convince your spouse that you will change. But promising to change is entirely different from really changing. If you want to stop the divorce from happening, then you have stop being unfaithful right now.

It is so easy to promise, in fact a lot of erring spouses have mastered the art. But it takes a person with integrity to make good on a promise. And if you believe that you are not strong enough to resist temptation, you should keep yourself as far away as possible from the things or persons that make you unfaithful. You can only hope that in time, your partner will be able to fully trust you again in spite of the fact that you do not really deserve it.

If your partner really loves you, he or she might see the amount of effort you are putting to stay faithful. Of course, your past actions are not justifiable and if your spouse is not able to forgive you or trust you totally, then you should not be surprised as this is the consequence of your previous indiscretion. The best you can do is continue being faithful and disengage yourself from activities that will further cause your spouse to doubt you.

What if it was your partner who committed infidelity? Would you be able to forgive him or her? You should consider that if you were the guilty party you would also want to be given the opportunity to change and to stay on in the relationship. Do not take the position of a judge and jury. Instead, endeavor to look into the reasons that brought about this problem and find ways to resolve it. It takes much love and maturity to be able to forgive and start anew.

Although divorce is a personal matter between couples, you could seek the advice of friends who might have gone through it or professional counselors who are qualified to handle these matters. Going through a divorce is a life-changing experience and should only be taken when everything has been tried. Sift through all the advices you have received before making the final decision.

If despite of trying all the things you know on how to stop a divorce, it still happens, you have to toughen up because the divorce process is normally painful and depressing. If you are not able to cope with it on your own, you might have to seek professional help or surround yourself with friends or family who can give you love and moral support in this trying time. -Kenneth Dean